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From Eric Stinson, via the Atlantic:

‘True love’ was a construction of Western-style nobility courtship rituals, enhanced by centuries of media, nearly as insubstantial and potent as Coca-Cola’s Santa Claus.

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Ever since I discovered that it was possible for me to make a delicious steak in less than 10 minutes with a tiny amount of effort on a simple stove, I’ve been going steak crazy. Steak is surprisingly easy to perfect. Here’s my steak recipe:

Stuff you need:

  • A couple of steaks, roughly 1 inch in thickness. I’ve used sirloin and ribeyes, but this should work well with any relatively fatty cut.
  • Salt and pepper
  • Dried garlic, garlic powder
  • (Optional) Dry mustard
  • Olive oil
How to do it:
  • Make sure your steaks are at around room temperature. Leave ’em outside for an hour or so if they’re not and come back later.
  • Cover both sides of your steaks with olive oil
  • Generously rub pepper all over so it sticks to the oil. I have a mini pepper grinder, and I use about 6 twists per side
  • Coat steaks in salt. Probably much more salt than you would imagine. You want a thin layer of salt all over the steak. Imagine what your leg looks like after going to the beach, standing in water, walking through the sand, and drying off after a couple hour — you want that much salt all over your steak.
  • Smear a teaspoon or so of dry mustard on both sides.
  • Turn up your stove to high. You want as much heat as possible, so really crank it up to the highest of high settings. You should heat a pan this step too — I’ve gotten the best results with cast iron, but it’s worked out pretty well with a simple nonstick aluminum pan as well.
  • Open some of your windows, turn on your stove fan, take the batteries out of your smoke detectors, etc
  • Toss your steaks on the pan. There should be a lot of hissing and brouhaha, but try not to poke or prod your steak too much, just leave it there.
  • You’ll want to leave it on the pan for somewhere between 2-3 minutes per side. Play around a little — this is probably the hardest part, where literally 10-20 seconds can transform your steak from medium rare to nuked, so just try different things and look at the coloring on the side of the steak to develop intuition on when to take ’em off the stove.
  • Enjoy!

Why blog? Because effectively, what I’m looking for is a way to record ideas and thoughts into a searchable index. I used to have this dream that I would somehow be able to create a wiki or website that would topologically categorize all my thoughts into smaller and smaller subunits, until one day, when somebody was curious what I thought about, say, ironing ties, I would be able to quickly direct them to some form of navigation that would give an account of what types of ties ought to be ironed, how to iron them, a link of different tie styles and ways to tie them, and in general, a mishmash of sloppily focused ideas.

This dream has petered out into nothing — when it comes down to it, I have neither the skill nor the fastidious devotion to categorize my thoughts in such a manner. So hopefully, I will be able to generate at least one or two unique-ish ngrams per blog post so that one day, far far into the future, when I want to search for a particular idea, images, concept, song, poem, lyric, code snippet, philosophical treatise, tutorial, recipe, business model, review, product, bamboozle, or what have you, I will be able to locate it with relative ease.

Or, it’s possible that this is one of five posts that I will construct during this particular round of blogging. We’ll wait and see.

From Yishan Wong, via Quora:

In college, I took a course called Cognitive and Social Supports for Irrational Belief Systems[1].

It was an interesting course, taught by a somewhat cantankerous and brilliant tenured professor.

It examined irrational belief systems, both of the “conventional” kind, like how ordinary people in WW2 Germany ended up committing atrocities against Jews and other conquered peoples, as well as cults and religions in general, but most interesting were the odd social behaviors that are irrational but which people nonetheless engage in.

One of these is self-handicapping. (Wikipedia:…)

Basically, it’s when you prime expectations in a negative way in anticipation of failure or setback so as to avoid hurting your self-esteem.


Tennis player: Oh, you’re probably going to beat me, but let’s play anyway.

You can tell from my example exactly what I’m talking about. You probably hear it all the time – now you know the name for it. Inevitably, self-handicapping doesn’t help the person at all. Anyone who hears it just thinks that you’re lame and kind of winces a little on the inside, waiting for you to get to the point. But people still do it.

I tend to do this a lot. I’m not sure how it started, and I’ve never thought about self handicapping as an explicit way to protect my self esteem, but more as a lightweight way to gauge how much discernment somebody is able to exercise in the presence of bias, what self perception or level of confidence somebody wishes to portray to me, and what level of bias or spin somebody places on their words and actions. When you say that you’re bad at X, an activity which you are not actually be bad at, you’re anchoring the expectations of those around you. There are a couple of different reactions a person might have to this:

  1. “Hey, everybody is bad at X” or “Well, the important thing is that you’re good at Y”: The person is trying to be nice to you. They may want something from you, or may just be genuinely nice and derive a sense of self identity from making others feel good. This means that it’s hard to trust this person’s feedback, since it will always skew towards the positive.
  2. “Oh, you’re not actually bad at X” or “Heh, you’re just saying you’re bad at X — the people best at X always say that”: The person secretly thinks they are better than you.
  3. “Why do you always say that? I don’t think you’re actually bad at X”: The person actually has a pretty accurate sense of judgement, and probably has a pretty high sense of self worth. This sense of self worth causes him or her to experience frustration at others who do not have a high sense of self worth.
To me, self handicapping is a method of communicating without communicating directly. I wonder if it’s something that I picked up from Chinese conversation with my parents and others, where false modesty is prevalent and where the meaning of a conversation doesn’t often lie directly in the words that are spoken.